But wow, today, I found something else. I've found a real friend, I know it sounds cheesy Debs, but I really have, we used to have loads of fun before and stuff but it stopped there. Today, I know we've gone past that friendly stage, now I felt like we're linked somehow. You know, you get me. I get you. and it just seems to work somehow you know?
Anyways, I promised I would write this, and dedicate this for you, because you're the only one of my friends that have actually read that article.
What you said after that really marked me, and I swear I'm going to remember this all my life. (to my readers, it's okay if you don't know what she said, it won't stop you from understanding the rest, but I just want to say, she said the kindest thing a friend has ever said to me.)
I mean, it was something I have been hoping to hear for a while, and finally someone gets it. It feels so good.
But okay, enough of cheesy talking. :)
As I promised...
Changing slightly my usual form of writing, I'm going to list, yeah a list, of the principles people should have to make this world a little bit better:
-First, I found this quote, I think it's pretty vulgar, sorry for that, but it's so true, "Bombing for peace is like fucking for virginity."
And I mean when I read that I thought, damn, that is so true.
People should be ashamed of war, in general, fare or not, I think no man should have to kill someone who has never done anything to you. I know in the Bible there is a verse that says 'thou shalt not kill'. I do respect that, I swear I will never kill anyone, for whatever reason.
So, most people having this same principle as me, wonder, 'what does it feel like to kill someone?' or 'are these people bombing conscious of what they're doing or are they monsters?'
Yeah, these are questions I often ask myself too.
How long will it take for people to acknowledge the fact that wars won't solve humanity, and that death and killing has become something we are used to hearing. How could human have led that happen?
Okay, let's take an example, remember these American soldiers who urinated on dead Afghan bodies?
That, is such a perfect, undeniable example of the point I'm trying to make, and also the perfect introduction to my next point.
- Stereotypes. What are they? Here's a reminder: 'A widely held but fixed and oversimplified image or idea of a particular type of person or thing.'
I'm talking about stereotypes concerning entire populations. I'm half Arabic, my mother comes from Morocco, and it all seemed really happy and awesome to be half Moroccan when I was a kid. Don't get me wrong, I am so entirely proud of being Moroccan and having such an amazing mother, but what I meant was the unbelievable stereotypes people stick with. I, being from both sides (Morocco and France) have a pretty good view on what kind of stereotypes exist.
And I couldn't be more aware of the tension that still exists everywhere.
And I think it's just so, so sad.
I think media these days have a massive influence on what people think of Arabs. Only now do I truly understand all of it. People have this really pejorative view on Arab people, because you only hear the bad things about them on the news. The wars, the murders, the hostages, the bombing, all that stuff.
But don't people realise it's the same everywhere? That humans in general have gone mad, and that we're self-destructing ourselves. I mean it, humans will cause their own destruction. We're all falling apart. These are big words, but I meant them. I think the world has gone terribly wrong, and the hard thing is to understand how we got to this point. How did we get to the Second World war? How did racism exist?
This is pretty rough. I mean, wow, oh my god she's talking about grown-up stuff!
'Grown up stuff' is stuff grown-ups can't even manage.
But, I've drifted slightly away from my original subject, soz. Yeah, coming back to stereotypes:
I saw a video on youtube, this Arabic-looking girl was singing in front of the camera, and her sister comes in suddenly, and slams the door. The younger sister (the one singing) asks why she couldn't have knocked, and the older girl in response, slaps her sister in the face and says "I'm your sister, I can come in whenever I want."
Okay, yeah wow that must have hurt. But then,
I read a comment saying that this stuff only happened, (let me quote this, this is unbelievable)
"in Wild, cannibal colonies in Africa and with Arabs"
Woah. Yeah, that was like a blow in my face. See this, is the typical stereotype.
This kind of thing happens in every country, like France (this was a French video), but people won't acknowledge that and will blame it on someone else.
The person who left that comment was probably clumsy, deep down I don't really blame him, medias and stuff you hear about Arab people are pretty horrible, and would lead stupid people to think stupid things such as: Arab people are uncivilised and mad populations.
Next time you hear something of the kind, remember what I said, it doesn't just apply for Arab people, I'm just stating an example, but be aware that what you hear manipulates what you say, even if you aren't racist, the words that come out of your mouth can suddenly sound very wrong.
There wil be more next time :) I hope that article wasn't too depressing, but I really like writing about this kind of stuff, it really helps me get it out. And not hold all this inside me. I like it.
Debs I know you'll understand this :) Can't wait to hear what you're going to say xxx